How do I avoid it?
Comparing yourself with others is one of the root cause of misery. We must understand we are all unique. No two people in the world, just like all the 5 fingers are different. If they were the same no work could happen with our hands. We are all playing our roles in the world. If you compare yourself with someone who you think is above you, you will feel inferior. And when you compare yourself with someone who you think is below you, you feel superior. If you happen to find someone who is exactly like you, works like you, talks like you, walks like you -I tell you, you will not stand that person even for 5 minutes. There is no end to comparing- either in our professional life, personal life.There are 7. 5 billion people on the planet. Can you compare yourself with all of them? You will end up in a mental asylum. Your world is limited- its you and the person you are comparing , In fact you are thinking about that person more than your own family and friends! How intelligent is that? You have rented our your upper chamber constantly thinking about that person.
How to get over it? Have a broader perspective of life. Expand your awareness. See life as a game. You cannot win all the time. Sometime you win and sometime you make there win. In any case you are always a winner. Sports build character in person’s life. The losses and wins will make you appreciate the game even more. There is always a learning. When you keep winning, you stop learning and that is when you become a loser.
There are 4 kinds of people. With Happy people, you become friends, so you will also be happy.
With sad people, you show your compassion.
With people who do good acts, you appreciate and be happy for them, else you become jealous! - apt to your question.
With people who do bad acts, educate and ignore.
There is nothing to achieve in the planet. Just relax. We are all going to go one day 6 feet under the ground. You and the person you are comparing. If your car is stuck on road with a flat tyre, what if the person who you are jealous/ who you compare come to your rescue? Its a possibility right. Relax, Promise your dear ones that from today you will stop thinking about that person. Let go. “Letting go” is the nectar of life.
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